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"Most of us aren't taught how to masturbate-
we figure that out on our own. What we are taught is how we're supposed to feel about doing it, and what other people feel about us, or anyone else, doing it. It's one of those things that we just don't talk about with others. I've noticed that lots of women would still rather talk about their last sexual encounter, or their upcoming date than discuss the ways in which they can satisfy, or have satisfied, themselves. For every proud proclaimer of solitary sex there's another one who offers a disclaimer like "I was desperate, bored or too tired for intercourse." We need to stop thinking of masturbation as an excuse for not having partnersex, or a backup plan in case our partners fail. We need to remember that masturbation is the safest, most uncomplicated, and most easily satisfying form of sex. "- (Betty A. Dodson, PhD pg. 4 as in Jamye Waxman, A Woman's Guide to Masturbation Getting Off, 2007).
"Prior to the 1960s, many women didn't know the proper names or places of their own genitals.
The clitoris was often described as a tiny bump, and not the intricate bundle of nervelicious joy that many of us now know it to be. Before psychiatrist and writer, Mary Jane Sherfey wrote the most comprehensive article on female sexuality of her time, women's genitals were often described in bunched-together terms, like vagina and genitalia, instead of individual flaps, folds, and holes. In the 1970s, the artist, Ph.D., and sexologist Betty Dodson drew pictures of women's genitals, providing an aesthetic and artistic view of what was going on down below; in 1981, the Federation of Feminist Women's Health Centers published an anatomically comprehensive view of the clitoris, which was once thought of as the tiniest member of our genital structure. Turns out it's not: Instead, it's a large bundle of nerve fibers that not only sits at the top of your vagina but also extends around your vaginal lips and works its way back into your urethral sponge. Without groundbreaking work like this, continued in recent years by Rebecca Chalker's 2000 book The Clitoral Truth, the clitoris, as well as the rest of our below-the-belly-button anatomy, might have stayed tucked away forever." -(Jamye Waxman, pg. 14, A Woman's Guide To Masturbation Getting Off, 2007).
"The Art of Tantra most simply defined is the union of sex and meditation.
It is simultaneously a physical and a spiritual happening, where two seemingly opposite extremes are joined into one. When this happens, a magical quality arises, and we have the sense of entering a fourth dimension where the mysteriously engulfing "present moment" awakens. In this realm everything sparkles and radiates creating a freshness in the eyes, a song of love in the heart and a new appreciation of the surroundings, our lover, and ourselves. We feel highly sensitive and porous because the essential energy of the Universe, pulsing life itself, is moving through us." - (Diana Richardson, pg.41, The Heart of Tantric Sex, 2008).